During the last few days of your time on Earth, also known as the active dying phase, your family and friends will perform a vigil for you. A vigil is a sacred time where the actively living attend to the actively dying. There are many ways to do this, and it can be entirely customized to your preferences.

Having a clear plan established and communicated before you can no longer speak for yourself is a kind and loving thing to do for your loved ones. Often family members and friends are looking for ways to ease the final journey of the person who is dying. This can be an effective way to give them the confidence to know that they are meaningfully contributing to your passage out of this life.

The Vigil Plan can include but is not limited to the following:

• Lighting

• Music

• Scents

• Flowers

• An altar

And also

• Spiritual elements – objects, people, prayers

• Location, room arrangement

• Visitors – who and how many

• Keepsake book/journal

• Books to read to you

• Words to say to you

I will also help you create an after-death plan and connect you with the necessary resources to allow that to occur as you would like.  

Together we can create a vision and a plan that will allow you as much as possible to die on your own terms with the full support of the people whom you want to be there for you in the end.